Even when you don't choose, you are still making a choice. Allowing things to happen to you by default is a negative choice, but it is still a choice. Even
if we don't much like the choices available to us, we do have a choice. We can
give up our right to make a choice, but in doing so we are making a choice
I used to think that not choosing was a safe way out. After all,
if I hadn't made a choice, anything that then happened couldn't possibly be my
fault, could it? It took a long time of coaching to realize that by refusing to
choose and just letting things happen to us, we are giving up our personal
power. In doing so we are making a negative choice that will usually impact our
lives in negative ways.
In some situations the only choice we have
available to us, is choosing how to respond to the situation. By choosing our
attitude we make a powerful choice, allowing us to stay in control of our
internal scenario, even if we cannot affect the situation on the
It can be dangerous choosing not to choose. By making this
choice we are giving up our personal power, either to another person or to the
situation itself. Even if we just choose how to respond to a situation, we are
making a choice that maintains our personal power.
It is important to
make choices, and make them mindfully, not just to keep our power but also to
take responsibility for the outcome. When we take responsibility we are no long
the victim. Playing the victim means that we are giving up choices and puts us
in the weakest position of all. To keep our personal power we have to make
choices and accept the responsibility for those choices.
It is better to
make any choice, even a bad choice, than none at all.
Are you putting off
making a choice about something?
"Destiny is not a matter
of chance, it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a
thing to be achieved." W.J. Bryant
"I discovered I always have choices
and sometimes it's only a choice of attitude." Judith M. Knowlton
are always two choices. Two paths to take. One is easy. And its only reward is
that it's easy." Anonymous