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Episode 1 Everytime we say our feelings are because of situations or people, we are blaming them for our state of mind. Discipline people and get work done but without fluctuating your state of mind, which means work needs to be done but our happiness is not dependent on it. Each one of us is responsible for our feelings. People are not responsible for how we feel and we are not responsible for how others feel. We can take care of our thoughts and actions, but finally others will create their own feelings and we should not feel guilty if others are creating pain. Nothing and no one is in our control, other people’s mind may not do what we want, we only have control on our own mind. Episode 2 Irrespective of things happening outside, we consciously choose our feelings inside. We are shifting from blaming to personal responsibility. Become aware of typical situations or personality traits in people like dishonesty, laziness, being late etc which cause irritation, anger or hurt. Now consciously choose to remain stable in response to people’s behaviours. Even if something has happened in the past, we cannot blame the past for our feelings today. Our feelings today are entirely our choice and our responsibility. Everything outside is a stimulus – past experiences, present situations, planetary movements. Irrespective of the stimulus, the response is our creation. I the soul am already peace, love, contentment. Nothing outside needs to be perfect for us to experience our own qualities, we already have them. Episode 3 People don’t insult us, they give their opinion. We take their words and make them our identity and then use that identity to create hurt. Mood created in one situation, if not corrected, gets recorded in our subconscious. Any trigger will bring the pattern from the subconscious to the conscious and very soon this becomes our prevailing mood. Do not make the emotion your identity, like I am sad, I am aggressive. It is a creation, it will pass. If we identify with it, we expect it to come and accept it when it comes. Face the emotion. Do not try to escape it by distracting your mind with movies, alcohol, working, holidaying or talking to people. Time cannot heal us. We choose how much time we take to heal ourselves. Face the emotion and find the tool of knowledge to heal it, do not leave it to time. Episode 4 Desires are scenes which we create on the screen of our mind. When the scene in reality is different from the one on the mind, the mind perceives it as a loss, and we create pain. Unfulfilled desires create pain. Let’s reduce our desires, and give everything the liberty to happen the first time in reality, as it is meant to be. When talking to family and friends about our emotions, focus should be on healing the emotion not discussing the problem and the emotion. Anything done repeatedly becomes a habit. It is our creation and we can change by creating a new habit. Focus on creating the new habit rather than finishing the old one. Morning meditation silences the conscious mind and implants the seeds of new habits in the subconscious mind. Episode 5 To change any habit we take care of 4 aspects. Gyan – Knowledge, Yog – Meditation, Dharna -Inculcation of qualities and Seva - Sharing. Meditation means to check your emotional blockages, see the thoughts behind it and then replace those thoughts with the truth. For eg. No one loves me is the blockage. Replace it with, I am a Loveful soul, I will give love and acceptance to everyone. Rajyoga Meditation means connecting to the Supreme Power, God and taking His powers and love to heal our blockages. Episode 6 Success inside i.e. stability, comfort, happiness inside will have an influence on getting success outside. When two people are in conflict inside, they cannot create harmony in the relationship. Harmony inside, i.e comfort, stability inside flows into a relationship and creates harmony. We always thought if the relationship is beautiful, if we get along well, then we will be very happy. The truth is if we are happy then the relationship will be beautiful. Knowledge is not to be used only for reading, listening and feeling nice, but to be experimented and implemented in daily living. Early morning the absorption capacity of the mind is high, fill it with pure powerful information i.e. spiritual knowledge and keep the newspaper for later in the day. Episode 7 When we take knowledge shared by others and implement it, we silence our noisy mind, then our own innate wisdom will emerge and this will change our deep belief systems. Study knowledge in the morning and then attention in the day on its application in situations, this is Dharna, inculcation of values. We shift from reactive behaviors to consciously responding from our original qualities of peace, love and respect. When we respond with stability in smaller situations we conserve energy. When there is a crisis we have the energy to face it with calm and stability. The knowledge we learn, we share it with the other, this is Seva. When we share we benefit first because we churn the knowledge while sharing. Sharing can also be radiating vibrations of purity. Episode 8 To make transformation natural and easy begin the day with meditation. As far as possible at the same time daily and in a dedicated place which is preferably not the bed, where there are vibrations of sleep. Meditation silences the mind. Then study of knowledge implants seeds of new way of thinking and behaving deep into the subconscious. A minute of reflection after every hour to check the quality of thoughts and change consciously towards the right way of thinking. At night review the day. Any action which was not right, we reflect on it and see how we could have responded in a different manner and visualize ourselves doing it a different way. Episode 9 We need to check our internal comfort zones of habits and behaviors created due to past experiences or affirmations made by people around us. We may be comfortable being that way, but it is damaging if it is depleting our energy. Self talk that we create has a deep impact on our sanskars and behaviors. Like we talk positive loving words to others to help them to change, we need to be positive and loving to ourselves. Other people’s opinion about us should not stop us from breaking our comfort zones. Goal is to have harmony inside. Easiest way to break a comfort zone is to start doing the opposite, even if it appears to be difficult. Each of us is a powerful soul and all of us have the same amount of will power, we choose how much to use. The more we use it, the more we will experience it. Episode 10 Subtle way of controlling people is when we change our behavior, like getting angry, hurt, sulking, not talking to them, till they do what we want them to do. When we ask people to do things in a particular and they do it our way, we feel we control them and they feel they are being controlled, both are not true and it makes both weak. The one who feels they can control will always have the fear of what if they lose control. Their happiness will always be dependent on the other person doing things their way. The one who is listening to others needs to be aware that they are choosing to obey for certain reasons. Important is they are making the choice, they are not being controlled. A powerful being is not the one who is able to control others, but the one who is able to control themselves. Episode 11 When people don’t do things according to what we want we start being judgmental and critical. This is creating resistance towards them. At that moment we don’t love them, we reject them. Resistance is not because of what the other person has done. Resistance is because of how we start thinking in response to what they have done. Our judgmental thoughts will travel to them and they start creating similar thoughts, and the process of conflict has begun. Each one is different, no one is right or wrong, we are just different. Acceptance means we accept the difference. Acceptance means we are comfortable with their present sanskar and way of working and ready to work on it from the next moment i.e. future. Rejection is focused on the past, the mistake they made. Episode 12 Criticism depletes the energy of the one being criticized and also of the one criticising. The criticiser creates emotions of rejection, anger, and fear of what if they don’t listen to me. Criticism creates hurt in the one who is being corrected. When someone is hurt they can follow our instruction but they are not feeling nice and hence we cannot say – it was for their good. Critique is giving feedback for the deed and criticism is thinking negatively for the doer. Separate the action from the person and give suggestion only for what they have done. Appreciate the person’s qualities and the other tasks that they do, build their self confidence and then give them feedback on the task which has gone wrong. When we are hurt or angry the feedback goes with the negative vibration and therefore not comfortable for the other. When we are stable and give the same feedback, it is only a feedback. Episode 13 Give advice and corrections to others only after we are doing it in our own lives. Each soul is carrying sanskars of many births, created due to cultures and situations in every birth. Sanskars which are not comfortable need to be changed, else we carry them into our next birth too. Criticism deepens their wounds and sanskars get stronger. Compassion helps them to heal their sanskars. Correcting people means empowering them to do it better in the future. Punishment was for what had happened in the past. Shift from control, discipline, authoritative, punishment to being compassionate, facilitate, guide, empower and heal. Episode 14 Habits change only when we know WHY we need to change and we really WANT to change. MIND creates thoughts, INTELLECT evaluates and decides, comes into action, repeated action becomes a HABIT or SANSKAR. Once it is a habit, the mind does not create too many thoughts and the intellect does not evaluate, the habit comes into action automatically. To change a habit, first we have to create a new way of thinking. Shift from automated way of thinking to consciously choosing a new thought. When the new thought is created, we will start feeling better. Now bring the new thought into action. We are consciously creating a new habit. Episode 15 Life is not a competition. Each one is on their own journey, live according to your choices, capacity, values and principles. The output of our actions is in proportion to our inputs. Inputs could be circumstances, health, resources, and value systems. Our output is not dependent on the output of others. Past Karma is a very important input factor. Even if all the present input factors of two people are the same, their past karma are different, therefore output will be different and therefore no competition. If we compromise on our input factor – values or interfere with the inputs of others, we are creating deep karma and this will influence our output today and in the future